【Description】
Relationship problems are among the most challenging issues in life. Typically, individuals are in the same social-media circle as their ex, which can give rise to complications. If your ex wants to get back together but you don’t, what should you do?
Grandmaster JinBodhi offers suggestions to help you avoid causing yourself or the other person harm. His advice not only contains the method for solving this issue, but also the right mentality to maintain for healthy relationships.
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(Hello, Master. My girlfriend and I broke up 8 months ago due to religious differences. But in the last few months, she has asked me to get back together. She follows me on social-media platforms. I neither want to get back together with her nor make her sad. What should I do?)
This means he really likes that girl. You all noticed that, right? This girl may like him very much too. But due to religious differences, they cannot be together. He may have felt the stress himself or his parents may have reminded him. Sometimes, this hurdle is difficult to overcome. Relationship problems are the hardest to sort out. It is also difficult to make judgments on family matters as they involve relationships. But my advice for you is to bravely let go. If you and she are unable to marry due to a range of reasons, then you should make up your mind and end it.
Many youngsters these days are attracted to each other at first sight. If a girl finds a guy handsome at first sight, she wants to date him. But once they date, she finds his personality to be incompatible with hers. Then she wants to break up. This is a common scenario nowadays. It is unlike my grandma’s time. 100 years ago, my grandmother married my grandfather sight unseen. She was overjoyed at his handsomeness. My grandfather was better-looking than me. Yes. As for my other grandfather, my grandmother said that, as he had smallpox as a child, his face was covered with pockmarks. She said, “He was happy, but I was upset. I married him not knowing his face was pockmarked.” So, my second grandmother was upset. They never met beforehand — no dating whatsoever.
So, romantic freedom gives you many choices and opportunities to interact with and get to know the other party. Let it go if you really feel you are incompatible. There were surely times when you were happy in your relationship with her. But due to issues that are dealbreakers, you are incompatible. So, you have to let go of this relationship promptly. You have to move forward.
But you are flooded with her messages on your phone and social-media feeds. What should you do? Very simple. Once, I watched a movie in which a thief threw a stolen phone into the sea. Is there a sea near you? You can throw your phone into the sea. Next, buy a new phone and change your account usernames. You must leave your social networks. This will clearly convey that you are no longer friends with her. It takes time for a girl to accept a breakup. She will come to accept reality. As for you, try finding another girl who suits you. The sooner, the better.
Jumping to her aid whenever she cries for help leads to trouble. If she constantly seeks you out for care and concern and you give her your attention, the relationship will never end. In the long run, this will cause more hurt. If this relationship drags on until you are past the usual age of marriage, you will both be hurt. Hence, this really needs to end soon. End it with determination. Short-term pain is better than long-term torment. Swiftly ending your relationship means short-term pain.
Since he is overly sentimental, it is hard for him to totally end things. Hence, this sentimental man can’t make a clean break. There are many such men. Uncertain endings bring unhappiness. You will hurt yourself too. Imagine if you found a new girlfriend but your ex-girlfriend continued to annoy you. Would your new girlfriend be happy? It is bound to create endless problems.
Thus, you have to hold your ground in ending this relationship. Only then will you be happy with a new girlfriend. You have to stand your ground. One needs to wield the surgical scalpel steadily, firmly and accurately. Only then can the life-threatening tumor be removed. This is just my suggestion.
I wouldn’t advise you to love her just because she loves you. Don’t sacrifice in the name of love. I hope you don’t do so. I hope you get to live your life. Hence, you should end this relationship promptly.