【Description】
We all encounter stress and trouble in life. Some people participate in activities or gatherings with friends to release stress. For many, talking problems over with a trusted friend is their go-to coping mechanism. However, introverts or melancholy people neither want to talk with others nor do they like to join group activities. How then can they create their happiness?
In this video, Grandmaster JinBodhi leads us to understand the source of troubles, and the patterns that all things follow. His self-liberation methods can help those who are feeling lonely and all who encounter pain and obstacles.
【You will learn】
- Ways to free yourself from troubles
- How introverts achieve success
- How to use your loneliness to accumulate knowledge and achieve success
【Featured aphorisms】
- Use your loneliness to create stellar accomplishments.
- Everyone is sent from Heaven to fulfill the purpose of their lives
【Content】
(Hi Master, I have just graduated from high school and will start university soon. I am unsociable, and once stayed home for 3 months without going out. When I talk to others, I am always afraid and anxious. It is easy for me to be misunderstood by others. How can I communicate with others?)
Then don’t communicate with others. I am reminding our fellow children that your happiness doesn’t absolutely rely on communicating with others. Take a pianist, for example. He expresses his joy and sorrow through the piano’s melody. A carpenter expresses through his woodwork. He doesn’t need to engage in much communication.
Here is my question: You were lonely. When you got home from school, what did you do apart from feeling lonely? This is crucial. You are not seeking recognition from others. That doesn’t matter. The important thing is, what have you done? ( I haven’t done anything. ) Yes, in that case your loneliness will continue.
Dear child, I had similar feelings when I was young, because I felt incompetent in everything. I had no physical strength, I had no cognitive abilities, I had the worse grades and I had no friends. I had fun with mud balls on my own. The mud ball was my best friend. A captured insect was my best friend. I didn’t know what solitude was. I merely had fun on my own.
But when I was almost 10 years old, I encountered my master; I followed him and started cultivating, meditating, chanting and practicing Energy Bagua and martial arts. I engaged in some activities. Not only did I not feel lonely, I felt fulfilled. I didn’t feel confident when I practiced. I thought people would despise what I was doing. I was even afraid of being misunderstood by others.
See, in our lives, humans are gregarious animals. They hope to attain acknowledgement. Such a mindset exists both in children and the elderly. You hope your singing will be recognized by the public, for example. Your drawing, maths skills and computer coding, you hope to gain recognition from them all. But don’t take these too seriously.
However, in the end, we must not always indulge in solitude. We need to utilize solitude to fulfill ourselves. Loneliness equates to leisure time. But if you let solitude occupy your entire life, that would be a waste. God say, everyone is sent into this world by the Heavens. We are not just a simple being. We have our own purpose. Many people ignore this aspect, and waste their life purpose. Feeling lonely means you have spare time. Utilize these times to do what you like to do. This is called wisdom.
You have completed primary school and high school. I hope that from today onwards you will still be who you are. I don’t want to change you. But I will give you some advice, which is to utilize your solitary personality in doing the things you like. You don’t need to become someone with huge accomplishments. But at least you will be more competent than the average person. Starting now, you can learn from an arts mentor, start dance practice or practice the violin. In 3 to 4 years, being solitary for 3 to 4 years is very impressive, you should be able to reach performance standards; it’s only possible for people who love solitude.
Don’t waste your life, all right? If you are feeling lonely and want to ruin yourself, don’t take my advice. You have to make a decision. Do you want to ruin yourself or succeed? ( I want to be successful. ) Yes, then you have to do something you like. You don’t have to tell me what you like. Think about it thoroughly and go accomplish it. This is called a breakthrough. Bear in mind that you have got 3 years of tough training to go through. If you are not prepared for incoming obstacles, you can’t succeed.
I have answered your question. Thank you.