【Description】
How best to communicate with our parents? When we feel that our parents do not understand us, and when we want them to listen to our ideas, we should pause to consider whether we have ever tried to understand and listen to the people raising us.
In this short video, Grandmaster JinBodhi uses a young disciple’s question to lead the children to think from their parents’ perspective. Click on this video to follow Grandmaster into the inner world of conscientious parents; understand their take on things, including how they look at children’s problems. Let’s learn to become considerate of our parents.
【You will learn】
- The mindset and perspective of parents
- How to be a considerate child
【Featured aphorisms】
- Laws of Nature are inherent in wisdom.
- Children must learn to understand their parents. Understanding doesn’t mean absolute obedience, it means engaging in reflection.
【Content】
(Hi, Master. I am growing up in a highly stressful environment. My parents have high expectations for my future. I get along well with my mother, but not with my father. I feel my father is only interested in what I can achieve, not in me as his daughter. How should I communicate with my father?)
The loveliest thing about humans is listening to others, which means to listen without interrupting. The impolite always interrupt others’ speech. The ignorant only want to be understood.
If you are modest and kind, you should listen to what your father is saying. As children in a family, you feel your world is complete; your school life makes up your entire world. For your parents, their children’s education is only part of their life. Your father needs to support the entire family. You only make up one part of your family. Usually, a responsible father supports the whole family’s household activities, food supply and all other resources. He may not have the time or be in the mood to listen to what his children say.
He faces a lot of stress. For those who are not very conscious or awakened, life is full of stress. Stress from finances, works, spouse and children. Under so much stress, he doesn’t have much time to talk with you. It is like, we rarely have the chance to talk with the president for an hour, because the whole country has only one president. If everyone talks to him for 10 minutes, he would die of fatigue.
For a parent, having a clear mindset with which to take care of the family is good enough. If you want him to sit down and have an in-depth chat with you, he might not have the time or be in the mood. He may have grasped your situation with one glance. Normally, your father would say, “Daughter, just do this.” He wouldn’t discuss it with you because you were wrong. He
would speak to you in such a manner.
You need to learn to accept it, and then learn to think analytically. Yes. Time has frequently proven that our fathers were right when we were young. But we didn’t accept his suggestions because we lacked experience. The Law of Nature is an important part of wisdom. If you have never experienced it, you couldn’t gain wisdom, because you don’t understand it. Your father would simply say, “Choose this path and you will be fine.” He wouldn’t explain; he might think you wouldn’t understand.
I think children should learn to understand their parents. You should think analytically; do not blindly obey. Alright? Don’t expect your parents to listen to your nagging all the time. Learn to think analytically. Don’t keep bothering your parents. Think critically.
A father’s love is as great and quiet as mountains. Listen to your father and understand him.