【Description】
Life is filled with rocky roads. When you’re faced with criticism or suffer harm or exposure from another’s words, how can you reduce the damaging influence of the negative information? Should you verbally fight back? Or should you conceal your anger and be upset in secret? Neither option is a constructive response.
There is a way to quickly adjust your emotions so that you can dwell in a state of calm acceptance.
What’s this wonderful method? Click on the video to find out.
【You will learn】
- Reasons for being criticized
- How to deal with adversity rationally
【Content】
Daily Life Q & A How Should We Handle Criticism?
How to become a person with strong endurance? When we get criticized or encounter difficult situations, can we keep calm and accept reality? Calm acceptance is actually simple to achieve. The more difficulties we experience, the better we can handle them.
Getting criticized can mean we have underperformed. Criticism may indicate that you are not on par with others. If you have been scolded, it is possible you have many weaknesses which were visible to others. This is why you were scolded.
I want to remind everyone that being criticized isn’t a bad thing. My grandfather said, “You won’t grow up if you don’t get scolded.” When someone criticizes you, whatever their intentions, good or bad, they reveal your disadvantages and weaknesses. They would never praise your advantages. Is that true? They would never say, “You are so handsome!” If I look ugly, others may say that to me with sarcasm. No one would praise you. If I tell someone with good grades, “You have such good grades”, that isn’t scolding but praising. So, criticism is always directed at your weaknesses.
Someone may criticize me by saying, “Look at you, even a pig scores better grades than you.” Right? That is actually the truth. They are actually very frank. It doesn’t sound good. If you have that weakness, then don’t be afraid of being scolded for it. Learn to change others’ criticism into motivation. Motivate yourself to move forward. If you perform well in every aspect, let’s see what they have to say. They have nothing to criticize you for.
Some may comment on how you treat people. Your academic and career performances may be good, but you lack people skills. You are selfish; you don’t like helping others; you even spread rumors and verbally attack others; so, this is a complicated situation. Whether people praise or criticize you, it is important for you to have a clear conscience, and work hard on what you should work hard on.
Many people get scolded because… For example, I scold someone for being lazy and not getting up early. Some have been criticized by me for 8 years, and they still refuse to get up early. They have vowed to liberate all sentient beings; how, by lying in bed? Yet, they refuse to change. Their behaviors create doubt in people, who wonder if they really have great compassion. Am I right? Some have earned a lot of money. I advised them to donate some to help the poor or to build meditation centers. They say, “Oh, I don’t have the money.” But they have the money to invest in properties, one after another. Your aspirations, your heartfelt resolutions, and your behaviors should be in sync.
Though I do my best to help others, there are still tons of people who criticize me. I take all scoldings as the motivation that helps me grow. Correct your mistakes, if any; avoid the mistakes you haven’t yet committed. We aren’t necessarily wrong, and those who scold us aren’t necessarily right.