【Description】
Most people in our materialistic world are trying to benefit themselves as much as possible, but there are some who choose to give and offer sincerely. Among those who have accumulated great wealth, there are people who are still overly attached to small profits, and others who give generous donations to the underprivileged. When people chose to give, do they really lose something?
“If you want to be a good person, learn to suffer losses deliberately,” says Grandmaster JinBodhi. Just being a good person seems to already put one at a disadvantage: Why do we need to suffer loss deliberately? What’s the philosophy behind this idea?
【You will learn】
- The wisdom in peer interaction
- Ways of effective management
- The benefits of giving something away deliberately
【Featured aphorisms】
- Suffering losses willingly when it comes to your wealth, lust, fame, and profits shows the breadth of your state of mind and the depth of your wisdom.
【Content】
In wealth and power, learn to accept losses. This is a higher state of mind; this is also called wisdom.
Suffer Losses Deliberately
Your partner with their imperfections is equal to you in status; you can’t scold or punish them like you would a child. That is impossible. If we use stern words or beat them, we will only cause a revolt. They won’t accept your teachings or scoldings. This won’t change them. For people equal to us in status, using compassionate methods is more effective.
Even though you are the boss, using only harsh orders is not the optimum way. Bosses who lead well are like the great generals. Many use emotions to lead. In reality, other than paying salaries and setting expectations, one can also show care and concern. Say, if your family has some difficulties, the company will help you settle them. If your child is sick, the company will help send them to hospital. It won’t cost much for the company, but your heart will fill with warmth, right?
So, apply compassion to management; this is the best way to lead a team, or change someone.
(Treat them as equals. Don’t lecture, don’t scold, and don’t blame. In leading a team, show more care, understanding, and tolerance. This way, relationships can be improved.)
In dealing with people, we must be gentle and tolerant. As a boss or a supervisor, learn to be tolerant, accept losses and be generous. Let me tell you: If you want to be a good person, be prepared to accept losses. In wealth and power, learn to accept losses. This is a higher state of mind; this is also called wisdom.
From a practical point of view: “Look, they are giving out food!” When we are all starving, this Buddhist temple is giving out food. Wealthy people are also donating food to those in need. Everyone is very grateful. This is the most direct example. Earning money is not easy for anyone. It is not easy for the wealthy either. Just look at how hard it is to manage people. But after one gains wealth, when everyone else is poor, he buys food to feed people and save lives. This is a very remarkable deed.
Some may think this is nothing. I feel that this is great compassion. It is truly remarkable. When many people are greedily trying to get more, some people donate their life savings to help those in need at crucial times. This is really remarkable. This is the opposite of greed. This is compassionate giving. This behavior is also called great compassion.
As the boss, apart from distributing salaries, if you could compassionately help your team in other aspects of life, such as financial issues, mental health and family problems, then you are a great compassionate boss. Such a boss will have a longer life and prosper in their business. Your employees will work diligently, and give their best in their job. It will not matter if the boss is capable or not. Your employees are bound to work hard and help your company grow.
(The wealthy love to gather wealth while the generous actively give. Suffering intentional losses is a great state of mind. Generous giving is great compassion.)
To build positive connections to transform your fate, you must learn to give and contribute more.