【Description】
Interpersonal problems in the workplace are often a source of pressure for many young people.
Conflicts with colleagues reduce one’s motivation at work and create stress that impacts both professional and personal time. So, what steps can help build solid workplace relationships? What mentality and methods allow one to adapt to the ups and downs of people and the environment? In this teaching, Grandmaster JinBodhi offers analysis and suggestions to help us overcome relationship obstacles in the workplace.
【You will learn】
- Reasons for poor interpersonal relationships
- Appropriate ways to change relationships for the better
【Content】
My son doesn’t get along well with his colleagues. He hasn’t quit yet due to the high salary. What should he do?)
Pressure at work is normal. It is what drives us. We call that “obstacles” in Buddhism. When we learn to overcome obstacles, we grow and become stronger. That is how we achieve enlightenment.
We will always face challenges in our lives. Getting along with people could be one of them. Clashing with colleagues is normal. When the conflict becomes serious, we need to calm down and find a better way to communicate.
If it is a clash of opinions about work, then think positively. I call this positive conflict. We should cherish such conflicts. When conflicts happen, we need to have self-control. Think: Have we offended others verbally or in other ways? Did we make mistakes first? We must look at ourselves first. We can’t control what others think. We can only look at ourselves and control what we do. Are we doing something wrong? Are we hurting someone?
Some people came to me for help; then they realized they had created the problem. Why? Because they are harsh and picky with others. They are selfish; they never cared about others. These traits were reflected in their language, which offended others. They will just keep offending more people at work. This will increase their afflictions. Although they earn a high salary, their afflictions make them feel bad.
They can improve the situation through learning. They need sympathy and empathy. Think about others’ feelings. Most of us think about ourselves only. We can only change ourselves, not others. Let’s adapt ourselves to the environment and people around us.
Practice well, live healthily and keep learning.