【Description】
Every child has a unique personality; some are independent and outgoing, while some are introverted and quiet. How should parents communicate with children who tend to be withdrawn? If you don’t get a positive response from your child, does it mean your efforts were in vain?
Listen to Grandmaster JinBodhi’s guidance to find the most appropriate way to communicate with your child.
【You will learn】
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How to communicate with introverted children
【Content】
Find out Your Child’s Traits
(Hello, Master. I am Lin-guang. I am from San Francisco Center. I have 2 boys; the elder one is 15. He is kind and independent; he does well in his studies. He is the leader among his peers. He is the dream kid all parents would like to have. I am not worried about him.
My younger son is 13. He has the opposite character. Although he is a straight-A student, he lacks confidence. He doesn’t talk much, unless he is with his close friends. He looks unhappy, and lacks energy. I have tried to chat with him. I wanted to find out what he was thinking. He has always answered me with only a few words, or even just “I don’t know.”
I don’t know how to communicate with him. I don’t know how to enter his world. I don’t know what he really needs. I want to see him happy, confident and independent. What should I do, Master?)
Everyone has their own traits. You need to find out your son’s traits, personality and temperament. Try to understand him. You should express your concern for him. Take care of him more. Don’t treat him like a sick or problematic kid. He expresses himself in simple words, or just silence. As long as he listens that should be enough.
I think you are asking too much from your younger son. That is not the way. Everyone has their own traits. Accept his traits; it makes you both happy. Nobody gets offended that way. So talk to him when you want to. Give him more compliments. Accept him as he is. Remember that.
Understand and accept people as they are, and you will be happier.