【Description】
As the old saying goes, “The deeper you love someone, the more you worry about them.”
Parents are prone to worrying about their children too much because of their deep love for them. A mother has a nightmare about a tombstone with her son’s name on it; what can she do besides fretting?
Watch the video and receive Grandmaster JinBodhi’s wise teaching.
【You will learn】
- How to resolve disasters
- How to care for children properly
【Featured aphorisms】
- Do more good deeds, have fewer regrets.
【Content】
Deep love creates worry.
Q&A on Cultivation:
Dream Interpretation ——The Son’s Tombstone
(Hello, Master. Recently, I dreamed of a tombstone. My 3-year-old son’s name was engraved on it. But he was asleep in his bed at that time. May I ask Master what this dream means?)
Sometimes love manifests through strictness. This is timeless wisdom. When you love your child too much, you begin to worry about their future, their safety. Nowadays, families have fewer children, usually not more than 3. We now have more adults than children, so we heap our attention on them.
As our attention turns into love, our deep love turns into worry. I believe almost all parents worry if something untoward happens to their child. Does anyone experience such worries? Many mothers do, right? The worrying doesn’t happen just once. Maybe you are not like this mother, having a surreal dream about her child’s tombstone.
To explain this: Firstly, my explanation is that too much affection leads to greater worry. Worry springs from our subconscious. Secondly, would something unfortunate happen to the child? I wouldn’t know. Our centers have many ways to accumulate one’s merits. Donate to gild a Buddha statue. Donate to the poor and needy. Or light a lamp or make offerings to the Buddha. Would these help your child? I wouldn’t know.
You might feel positive about these deeds. “Since I did all these good deeds, have I averted disasters?” I wouldn’t know. Is it that we love too deeply? Everyone could seemingly imagine that such a tombstone is a tragic scene. So if you love your child, accumulate merits for him. Don’t ask that many questions. We hope that such tragic scenes are not real, just nightmares.
You may then say: If they are just nightmares, why should I spend money? Why must I make offerings? Why must I give donations? At least by doing so, you become a kind person. Suppose I dreamed about the tombstone; I would prefer to use money to gain merits. I would rather do this, because I love my child.
What will you do? I hope that you do not have any regrets. Do more kind deeds. This is what I feel to be the right decision.